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Editorial: Ultimate act of compassion




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May 9, 2012 | 1,397 views | 2 comments

By Dwayne J. Clark

We all know the wording of our wedding vows: “For better or for worse, ’til death do us part.”

Charles and Adrienne Snelling were married 61 years and, by every indication, they had a love story that most couples dream of. Six years ago, Adrienne developed Alzheimer’s. She knew her disease would not be kind, as she wrote her family members after her diagnosis.

Last Thursday, Charles ended his wife’s life and her disease, and then took his own. Some would say that this was a selfish thing for him to do. But all evidence points to the fact that this may have been the ultimate act of compassion and love. Others suggest that Charles was stressed by being his wife’s caregiver for six years. However, his children said the couple talked about what they would do when their quality of life was robbed by this disease. The stress didn’t come upon Charles suddenly. He was prepared for it, and he’d probably also decided, in advance, what he would do to help his family through the pain when the time came.

You see, Alzheimer’s is not just a disease that robs the victim of health. It is a disease that robs victims of history -- their history, and everyone’s associated with them. Imagine waking up one day having no history. You don’t remember your name, where you were born, or any relatives. You have no past and no future. This is what Alzheimer’s is. It steals our existence on this planet.

As a CEO of a company who has cared for thousands of Alzheimer’s residents, I see this daily. The blank stares in the eyes of someone’s mother, the tears in the eyes of the daughter. When my mother got to the stage where she no longer remembered my name, I remember feeling lost. We are creatures of relationships. Those relationships feed our souls and allow us to know we have lived. We are tethered to our parents, our family, our friends, and to see our histories with them on shaky ground jeopardizes our sense of who we are. It makes us question our place in the universe.

As my mother journeyed further into her illness, I wondered if her form of existence was really life. I so wanted to do what was right for her, to end her suffering, and to give her back her dignity. My mother asked her children to do everything we could to help her live as long as she could. But would she have said that if she could have seen herself at the end of her life? I watched her wither away, struggling to breathe. There were no good solutions.

What Charles Snelling did was to love his wife until the end, and then he made sure she didn’t leave this world alone. This was love ...

Dwayne J. Clark is the author of My Mother, My Son. Visit him online at www.mymothermyson.com.
 

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Holly  
Floresville  
May 15, 2012 5:24pm
 
i KNOW THAT GOD DOES NOT CONDONE SUICIDE BUT THIS POOR MAN HAS GONE THROUGH SO MUCH PAIN AND SUFFERING WITH HIS PRECIOUS WIFE. mY OWN FAMILY WENT THROUGH THE PAINS OF WATCHING MY PRECIOUS FATHER SUFFER THROUGH THE HORROR OF ... More ›

 
Senior Citizen  
Wilson County  
May 14, 2012 11:27am
 
Who but God is to say whether his actions were out of love or selfishness.

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