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First Lutheran Church in Floresville is seeking a Director of Youth and Family Ministry, part-time 20 hours/week. Qualifications: Have active worship life and ongoing growth in faith, understanding of Lutheran-Christian tradition, ability to work with both adults and youth, basic computer and organizational skills. Director will disciple both parents and youth grades 1-12, establish appropriate caring relationships with youth, seek opportunities to connect with youth in their environment on their schedule, organize parents into groups for children's ministry work, arrange at least 3 annual local events or trips for Sr. high youth, recruit and encourage youth and adults to take positions of shared leadership and involvement, create and implement means for regular communication with parents and youth, manage youth and family ministry calendar in collaboration with staff, parents, and youth. Applications accepted thru Sept. 15. To apply call 830-393-2747.
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Saving a financially wounded marriage: the new trend




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By Laurie Puhn, J.D.

Now more than ever, people are coming to my couples mediation office to help them save their financially wounded marriages. They aren’t asking me for a job, rather they want me to help them stop fighting about their lack of money, job loss, and who is to blame for the absence of love and respect in their relationship.

As a consequence of today’s recession, many cash-strapped couples are experiencing a marital meltdown. Even happy couples admit that the sudden economic downturn is testing their “I do” commitment.

Couples know that divorce is expensive and traumatic so they are desperate to avoid it. According to a 2006 wealth study using information from the U.S. Census Bureau, people who married and stayed married built up nearly twice the net worth of people who stayed single over a 15-year period.

Yet, with money tight and insurance coverage dwindling, the traditional route of costly long-term couples talk therapy is not an option. Instead, a new and empowering trend in marriage is emerging, though most people don’t know about it yet. It is called couples mediation. This effective marriage-saving program delivers immediate low-cost relief. It focuses on replacing bad verbal habits with good ones, to quickly reinvigorate the respect, appreciation, and intimacy in the marriage. Couples who can’t attend mediation sessions can learn the skills through my new bestselling book, Fight Less, Love More: 5 Minute Conversations to Change your Relationship without Blowing up or Giving In.

Here are a few tips adapted from the book: 5 Tips to Save a Financially Wounded Marriage.

Install a Daily Communication Routine: Love is an asset, and it depreciates. Install a new communication routine to instantly boost the love connection. What you come to expect, you come to neglect, and that’s the silent killer in relationships. Turn the neglect around by sharing the priceless words “good morning” and “good night,” “hello” and “goodbye,” and “I love you because ...,” with your spouse.

Partner up: Two minds are better than one. If you are unemployed, assume your spouse loves you and wants to help you, but doesn’t know how. Your spouse can be an asset to your job search. Show your mate respect and ask for his/her help before he/she starts giving you orders. Partner up and have a conversation about how to budget, stretch the dollar, and advance your job search.

Avoid Dumb Emotional Arguments: Have “dollars and sense” conversations. If your mate accuses you of making financial decisions that are based on your emotions, you probably are. Replace emotions with facts and you will short-circuit many arguments. For example, if you want to visit your family in another state, get the cost of transportation, etc., and then discuss the options. Avoid abstract words like “whatever,” “about,” “maybe,” and “probably.”

Include Daily 30-second Love Plays: Spark intimacy with kind acts and words. Use the Follow-up Love Play to show you care, especially when financial issues have taken center stage in your life. Call, text, or email your mate to ask about an event, a meeting, or an appointment he/she had that day. Giving your mate a little attention works wonders. Then, use a Pitch-in Love Play. Volunteer to do something before you’re asked to do it. Find a chore, task, or responsibility your mate usually does and do it for him/her.

Protect Your Union: Keep it confidential. Have a conversation with your mate about what is personal information and should remain private (your bank account, house foreclosure) and what is public. Avoid major battles by agreeing not to “overshare” private information with others.

Laurie Puhn is a couples mediator, lawyer, and the bestselling author of Fight Less, Love More.

For more information, visit www.fightlesslovemore. com.
 

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